http://www.choralnet.org/2016/11/choral-potpourri-choral-ethics-apologies/ I was browsing through ChroalNet and came across Marie Grass Amenta’s blog, in particular her November 3 submission, "Choral Potpourri; Choral Ethics; Apologies". This was a short read but I think it has a valuable message. Amenta discusses the importance of an apology when you have done something wrong. Having the ability to apologize means that an individual is able to identify and own responsibility for their wrongdoing, no matter what the situation may be. This may seem like a simple action for most people, but there are many individuals who are unable to accept when they have done or said something to hurt, offend, or disappoint someone, and therefore, are unable to offer an apology. Amenta describes the situation of one of her recent correspondents, who for the purposes of privacy, she names Deb. Deb experienced a difficult day in which a series of very unfortunate events occurred one after another making it difficult for her to cope with her daily responsibilities as a music teacher. I'm sure we can all recall and relate to a day like this. Deb's colleague pointed out that when one is going through a difficult time it is normal to feel overwhelmed, anxious, moody, and unmotivated. In fact, these are natural human responses to trauma. He suggested that rather than push through these emotions, admitting to them up front and in sort 'apologize' could diffuse any predicted negative outcomes. Deb hesitantly experimented with this 'pre-apology' with her church choir that same day. She let the group know at the start of rehearsal that she was having a rough day, the reasons for it, and apologized in advance if she seemed distracted or generally not her cheery self. She opened up to her ensemble and in turn they were empathetic and understanding. This apology allowed Deb to express her emotions in an honest way and helped her get through her rehearsal in the most productive way possible on that day. She and the ensemble felt better for her honesty. While this story may seem a little lacklustre, I think it offers basic advice that is often overlooked. It is easy to push through negative emotions and carry on about your daily routine pretending there is nothing wrong. Often times however, these suppressed emotions cause an otherwise cheerful person to become unintentionally irritable, rude, or distracted and can hurt the people you associate with. Ultimately knowing when you should and being able to apologize, no matter the circumstance, is very important. This is particularly true for teachers. When a teacher has the ability to apologize to their students, for whatever reason, this shows strength and a sense of mentorship on the teacher’s behalf. This honesty demonstrates to students that everyone is capable of doing wrong, vulnerability can be a strength, and it is ok to make mistakes as long as we learn from these mistakes. This notion of apology and vulnerability reminded me of one of the recipes in "The Choral Director’s Cookbook Insights and Inspired Recipes for Beginners and Experts". Conductor, Weston Noble addresses the importance of being vulnerable whilst conducting in his submission to this book. Weston believes that vulnerability is a necessary skill for any successful conductor, however, most individuals (even the greats) struggle with finding this openness and level of comfort. This recipe is a reflection of Noble’s own struggles in finding vulnerability and taking risks in front of an ensemble and the great sense of togetherness, freedom, and success once found.